It isn’t easy to cope with a cheating husband. There are a lot of feelings that go along with finding out your husband has been cheating on you. Anger. Guilt. Fear. Insecurity. Shame. Bone jarring hurt. Humiliation. The list goes on and on. Regardless of whether you decide to save your marriage, you’re going to have to find a way to cope with a cheating husband and the aftermath of discovery.
Cheating men have been around since the dawn of civilization. In the beginning it was a matter of humanity’s survival. In fact, throughout early history men were often husbands to many wives. The idea of monogamous men is a fairly recent development as far as the lengthy history of the world goes.
There are many who believe that it’s genetically encoded in men to sow their seed wherever they feel it will be more likely to yield results – at least on a genetic level.
Of course there are some who believe that men came up with that theory in order to justify the act.
None of this changes the fact that it is difficult for any woman in the modern world to cope with a cheating husband. There are just too many emotions involved for this to be an easy situation to handle. But, handle it you must. Here are a few tips that might help you put things into perspective so that you can cope much better.
1) For most men, cheating is not about love. He can still love you even as he’s cheating on you. Women often have an emotional connection when they cheat. They love the man they are cheating with on some level. It’s not the same for men. He doesn’t have to love the other woman at all and his cheating is no reflection at all of how he feels, or doesn’t feel, about you.
He can cheat on you if he loves you because he doesn’t feel one has anything to do with the other.
2) While you won’t believe it, it’s true, he isn’t cheating because she’s younger, prettier, blonder, has a larger bra size, or even because she hasn’t ever had children. Those things don’t play into his cheating at all. More often than not he cheated because the opportunity arose and he thought he could get away with it. You can ask and he’ll probably tell you the same thing. The problem is that you’re not likely to believe it no matter how true it is.
The bottom line is that coping with a cheating husband is more about accepting the fact that it wasn’t about his love for you, or lack thereof, and deciding to move forward and put his cheating behind you.
Coping with a cheating husband is difficult in the best of circumstances but if not handled correctly, you may find yourself trying to find ways to get your husband back down the line.
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