Question by ProudMama4710: Is it true that it’s normal to think about cheating on your partner?
I’ve done quite a bit of research on this and apparently, it’s healthy to think about cheating on your significant other at some point of your relationship. On the other hand, it’s not normal to follow through with your thoughts and go cheat. What do you think about this? Also, do you think that just because the thought has crossed your mind means that you aren’t in love with your partner?
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Answer by dbwalk1973
Try this experiment: Don’t think about cheating.
You just thought about cheating, didn’t you?
Now: Don’t think about killing your dad.
You just thought about killing your dad, didn’t you?
Thoughts and actions are two very, very different things. You are free to think whatever you want, just try not to hurt other people. Simple as that.
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Bugs would never cheat on Lola although he has a thing for Miss Manners Spanks A Monkey..
It’s normal. You can still love your partner but seek variety.
I agree it is normal to have those thoughts. The not normal (or healthy) point is following through. I think everyone has the urge to go out and get what they don’t have. It’s a grass is greener situation. when your single all you want is a partner, when you have one you want to be single. A good way to get these emotions out in a healthy form is role playing in the bedroom. Get outside yourself and feel like a new person 🙂
Its completely normal to think of other men/women when you are in a relationship. Everybody checks other men/women out when they are in a relationship. Its okay as long as you remember “You can look but don’t touch” When you follow through on your thoughts and actually cheat you can say bye to your relationship.
It is human nature and virtually all mammals consider this- yes. Thinking about doesn’t mean you are not in love or emotionally attracted, it may indicate that you need to spice things up in the romantic and sexual portion of your relationship and be open-minded.
The mind is a horrible thing to waste and people often fantasize about being with someone else- see what it is that intrigues you and see if role playing or living out your fantasies with your partner might work.
It’s crossed my mind several times before but I would never act upon it.
I have a wonderful boyfriend who loves me. I couldn’t cheat on him and risk ruining the great relaionship I have with him [:
No it doesn’t define your love like you said it isn’t necessary to follow
through negative thoughts.
You know if you are or not
Love is what it is
If you are so blinded by your partner that you don’t even notice other people . . . that isn’t healthy.
Yes, I think it’s normal to think about cheating, and it’s a sign of a healthy relationship (as long as it doesn’t happen a lot). =D
You say you’ve done a lot of research on this – are you looking for a justification for something that you want to do?
Are you thinking about having an affair with a particular person?
Or have you just lost interest in your partner?
I would say there is nothing wrong with any kind of sexual fantasies, whether it is adulterous or otherwise, but that’s just my opinion. But it does seem to me you are looking for validation for proposed infidelity and I can’t give you that. If things are not working with your partner you need to see if there are relationship issues there you need to address, or perhaps the relationship is not going to last?
Think about these things and address them before you go with somebody else. Nothing hurts like being cheated on my a lover.
Actually, it depends on the kind of person you are. If you’re impulsive (like me), that thought will become a reality, because I think “Oh, that guy just winked at me! He likes me! He’s cuter than my boyfriend! I’m going to go hit on him!” and it doesn’t strike me as cheating until…you know.
There’s no such thing as cheating.
Depends on the situation – is it some hottie who walked by you in the gym and you’re like “wow, I wonder what it’d be like to do that” – or is it someone in your life who you’re continuously having these thoughts about? If it’s the former, yeah, that’s normal. If it’s the latter, then that’s called emotionally cheating and that, to me, is worse than flat out cheating.
I think cheating is a sign of something really really wrong with a relationship – but it doesn’t mean you can’t fix it. Why are you feeling the desire to look at other people? Is it because they’re offering you something you cant get at home? Are they more sexually attractive than your partner? Is your partner maybe become complacent in the relationship and not offering you what you want or need?
These questions need some serious thought… and discussion with your love…
Totally normal!