Question by pjnut08: How do I catch a cheater?
I know this sounds horrible, but I need to find out if my stepfather is cheating on my mother. She wants mt to make a new profile and i guess email him. Its a sticky situation. Personally, I dont like the guy. My mom works, he doesnt. He spends her money and sits at home all day. She has found…well “Stained” underwear of his. And to be quite honest, my mother has told me they havent had any…loving moments shall we call it, since they have been married. Due to his “injuried” back.She wants to know without letting him know. ANy suggestions?
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Answer by MiLF <3
well the profile is a decent idea but he may be smart enough to figure it out. Give it a try tho, it wont hurt!
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I have a suggestion: do not let your mom suck you into her marital drama. It is wrong for her to even ask you that. Clearly, her head isn’t screwed on correctly at the moment, to ask her child to assist her.
Sounds to me like hes just spanking the monkey a little. Nothing to worry about.
hire a detective or set him up yourself. if he is online alot make a profile……….but honestly u can see the signs that he is cheating i see them. your mom should leave him. she will be much happier and stress free. good luck
hi it is wrong of your mother to be putting you in this situation, tell her to find out some other way.
with a really big mouse trap
Larry the leach. going around using unsuspecting widows and old women and divorcees
It is horrible. If a woman suspects a man of cheating, he probably is.
Why does she keep him around? He sounds worthless. She should be a woman and kick him out.
Additionally, she should not be involving you in she schemes and love life. You should be allowed to live your life drama-free.
Don’t catch a cheater just throw them where they belong. In the trash!
Omg stay out of this. Your mother is letting this guy used her, and the best advise you can give her is to get counseling and get a lawyer. Do not, and I repeat, do not get involved. Your mom has no business sharing any of this with you, its completely inappropriate.
1 you need to be out of the middle of there relationship. It has nothing to do with you. You can support or be support for your mom but you should worried about your own affairs and life. As for if he is cheating, this should be checked out by your mother. If you want to help him it is your choice to do not out of manipulation, but because you want to. You know what is right from wrong and you can make good decision. Best of luck to you.
have her invite a friend over to flirt with him.She can keep leaving out the room to give him a chance to make a move.
Your mom shouldn’t be dragging you into her adult problems. If you do and you get caught, you’re going to look like the bad guy.
Tell her how you feel about your stepdad, and if she suspects he’s cheating, she should just leave him. She’s the sole breadwinner so it’s not like she’s going to lose out financially by leaving him. Tell her you love her and you want her to be happy, but it’s not your place to get involved in her marital problems.
Tell ur mom to do the duirty woik herlsef and not drag you in.
Hire a private detective!! There’s a cool video I found in this blog: http://blogs.news.com.au/heraldsun/katseye/
This girl goes undercover with a private investigator and shows how they catch out cheaters!! It’s worth knowing the truth I think. Good Luck!
How do you know this ? You stay out of it . Im sure your mom has friends and a brain . I wouldn’t even worry about it unless there were lipstick stains ! This is non of your business little girl! If dad is disabled it could mean a bunch of things !
Have your mother contact her attorney and he can recommend a good private detective. Don’t you do it–it is up to your mother to handle this situation, not you.
You shouldn’t email him anything. He may look up the header of your email which has your originating ip number and could find out who you really are if he wanted to. Besides that would be entrapment.
It would be best to hire a private investigator to follow him around. Or if possible, get a close friend to do it for your mom. The friend could disguises him or herself and follow the no-good-for-nothing around and take pictures.
He sounds like a waste of space to me, your mother is getting no life with him; she obviously needs someone to confide in & that is you! Mothers can be best friends as well, so supporting her in this is good.
Try the fake profile by all means, it may not work, but maybe he is not cheating but just using porn etc. Something should be done to give him an ultimatum, bad back or no!
I think its a bad idea to put you in the middle of this. If she wants to entrap him she needs to do it her self. And sometimes you don’t have to look for things because what ever is done in the dark comes to the light.
Well, what I am going to suggest and you probably will not like this, is for you to mind your own business and deal with the problems in your own life, I know it is hard, but it is for the best.
Your mom is an adult and she will deal with this and cope with this matter on her own.
For example, my mom was dating this one man, and he was really aloof to the rest of the family, and did not show the family respect, and we did not like that, but we wanted her to be happy, so there was nothing we could do, or say, for that matter, until one day something happened and my mom found out what a creep he really was and made up her own mind to end it with him.
We all want to do so much for our family, the ones we love, but as much as it hurts us seeing them go through their relationship troubles, we have to, we have to let them live and learn no matter if we like it or not.
Your mom is a big girl, she can take care of herself, just be there for her and be ready to catch her when she falls, and offer your friendship and a shoulder to cry on.
Ask him.
You really shouldn’t be pulled into her problems, but if you really want to help her here are a few ways… Hire a detective, but that may be expensive. Hire a decoy, prices vary… Or you can have your mom buy an infidelity test…
hidden camera
Hire a private detective, some work real cheap. The profile thing may work, but you would have to arrange a meeting to see if he showed up.
I will presume you are not 8 years old. Regarding the stained underwear, as all men do, he masturbates. He just doesn’t clean up afterwards. “Stained underwear” alone isn’t a reason to suspect cheating.
I gues I am not sure what the purpose of all the drama and games are (I hate games and never play them and wouldn’t spend a moment of my life with someone who did) I mean, if she is unhappy and the guy is a bum, why not get a divorce. Does she need more reason than neglect?
Or has some lawyer told her she will get more in a divorce if she catches him cheating? Actually the LAWYER will get more in a divorce if she catches him cheating and TRIES to get more. It will result in a disputed and dragged out divorce (the lawyers favorite kind) and they will eventually settle for 50/50 like everyone else.
I say, just be straight. Your mother should tell the guy he is a bum and serve him with divorce papers.