Question by carouselsb3: What do you say when you have caught your partner cheating?
I suspected my partner of 2 1/2 years of cheating. It turns out I was right. I am going to confront her today. I just have no idea what to say…
Help.
I say that I have no idea what to say because I am in shock. The woman whom I have pledged my love and my life to frequently meets women on the internet and has flings (using the same “lines” she has used on me). I am so hurt and wrapped up in this that it is hard for me to sort out exactly what to say.
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Answer by luvmadukes
id present the evidence and go after the other girl first as ur has to come home sometime
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goodbye, been real
I love you, but can no longer trust you……I found out what went on……yada yada yada…….it really depends if you plan on staying with her or not…….
Tell her how you feel and that if she doesn’t stop you’ree going to have to break up.
I’d make her put the card back and she’d definately lose that round and forfeit her points.
get the fuckk out before i rip your head off u cheating whore and get tested for std’s
What do you mean you have no idea what to say which leads me to the other question are you sure she was cheating if you are then you would indeed know what to say
tell her: I caught you.
You say ” Hit the ROAD!!!” Simple and effective!
Ok here is what you say to her: Tell her thank you for wasting two years of your life and give her ten minutes to pack up her things. DOn’t listen to nothing she has to say because she is a liar and a cheat and you don’t want to be in a relationship based off lies. Let her know that you are hurt yet make it clear that you will not take her back no matter what.
say
honey i know you Are cheating on me with……and i now this is going on for long so i had been patient enough,now i tell you good by and have a good life
Tell her that if she was so unhappy with you that she needed to cheat she should have had the guts to stand up and tell you. In today’s world there are so many diseases out there that can kill you, that what she’s doing is not only deceitful, selfish and dishonest it is deadly.
Sexual diseases don’t care what race, genger or sexual proclivity you are and she’s playing russian roulette with not just her life but yours and whoever she’s cheating with.
People who love you I mean truly love you will not cheat, ever. There is never a good enough reason to cheat, it is underhanded and you deserve someone who will hold you in better regard. Someone who loves you can’t imagine their life without you never mind cheating, you need to be enough.
She’ll probably tell you that she is happy and “it just happened” but that is not true and I tbink you know it too.
I know it is not black or white but shades of gray in life and it’s not easy to let go of someone that we love but let’s face it, she already let you know how she feels by her actions. She is a liar, a cheat and not someone you should invest one more minute. How could you ever trust her again? How can you not think of her having sex with someone else when she’s having sex with you?
Get yourself some counseling and believe that you deserve something better for yourself? Why do we always think that we don’t deserve any better? Karma is a great thing and she will come to regret what she has done once she grows up and become a mature adult. Stand up for yourself and don’t ever let anyone think they can get one over on you, you’re so much better than that.
Good luck and believe in what you want.
Ask her why. What did she need that she had to go outside? This might work to let you tell her a thing or two that you might need out of the relationship. Of course, this might have to wait until the initial ‘confrontaion anxiety’ subsides….lol but it can happen. 2 1/2 years ain’t no one-nighter, there has been a substantial emotional, as well as psychological, investment, and ,like any investor, I’m sure you have and would like to continue seeing a return. Wish you well
Do not confront your partners’ lover.
It is not going to help you. The lady your partner ‘cheated’ with is just a SYMPTOM of the problem your partner had in not honestly communicating his needs to you.
Confront your partner only. Be honest about the way you feel, try not to lose your cool, then walk away. Wait until your partner contacts you again. He needs to know how your faith in him may result in him losing you…
I’ve been through this with my (gay) boyfriend. It has nothing to do with you as a person….
WALK OUT THE DOOR !I DON’T LOVE U ANY MORE !
I will just give him/her a tight slap and complain to the person incharge.
Talk to him.
And try to normalise situation rather than making worse
GOOD BYE!
Well…trust is very hard to attain and very easy to break. The question is…Are you willing to forget and forgive and is she willing to accept and commit? I know it hurts but talking about it would help make your mind. It is OK for you to say that you need time alone to think things over. If you feel you need counseling go get it. Your emotions are very all over the place right now. If she is a good person, maybe this whole thing is a factor of both of you. Find out what happen to the relationship and at what point. Be able to accept responsibility for some things, but do not blame yourself. Sometimes this things happen to give you a good waking up. This relationship may be good or bad for you, but the experience you take with you will last you for the rest of your life. Good Luck and remember you are worth a universe.
I’ve been there more than once…
its hard to say anything at all. at the same time you really need to becuse you need to know where to go from here. being a woman that has been cheated on repeatedly I can tell you this…
it’s going to be painful but you need to say something otherwise she will be led to believe that you not only know but you aprove as well…and I am sure you don’t…take that step and stand firmly…just breath you can do it
maybe “goodbye”?
bye.
First let me say I am sorry for your pain , betrayal in someone you love cuts deeper than a knife . Collect your evidence and be ready for her before you present it . Then sit her down and show her what you know to be the facts . Listen to her response and if you feel in your gut she is lying to you then tell her its over and she needs to move on . You are worth more than this and deserve someone who can give you the same quality relationship as you provide them . She has a problem and needs to get some help . I wish you the best .
depends on what kind of outcome you want? you gonna dump her or hope she doesn’t do it again?