Question by Jennifer B: How can you tell that your partner is cheating on you?
I have suspicions that my partner is cheating on me. He leaves our home for a whole night once a week saying he needs “me” time. Im not able to comprehend why he does this. We have been together for almost five years now. He was married when we first started seeing each other, and the saying “once a cheater, always a cheater” keeps playing in my head.
Best answer:
Answer by jhsh
Throw the question to him.
Tell him that you too need a whole night off once a week without telling him where you are
What do you think? Answer below!.
An entire night away from home, regularly every week, does seem odd. I can’t think of a valid, good reason to stay away from home for a whole night on a regular basis. I could see crashing once in a blue moon at a friend’s house, if he drank too much, for example; but planning to stay away often? Odd.
Does he tell you what he’s doing? With whom he’ll be? Where he’s going? Or does he seem to be hiding something? Does he get defensive (or offensive — attacking you with things like “Why should you need to know? Don’t you trust me? If that’s what you really think of me, why do I bother?”, etc.) if you ask about this?
I’d be asking him straight out where he is spending his one night a week & if he refuses to give you an answer explain to him how you are feeling. Tell him you need to know the truth no matter what it is because the sooner you know where you stand the better. I don’t blame you being suspicious because another saying is …”a leopard doesn’t change its spots!”
I agree with you that once a cheater will always be a cheater. In your case, you will know if he is cheating when his appearance changes, meaning he is more presentable than ever and he always avoid a serious discussion with you regarding your relationship. If I were you, talk to him besides he is your other half. You know that your relationship is not one sided and you need him to keep your relationship strong and intact.
Follow him, look at his phone bills, emails, etc…. Following is probably the best bet. Have somone close to you, someone you trust, follow him and see where he goes. If he is cheating, he probably wont notice someone folling him, due to all the emotions and chemicals f**king up his judgement @ the time. Good luck, and i hope he’s not ; ]