Question by LeighAnnah: How to find out if your partner is cheating?
If my boyfriend is cheating on me, then he must be really good at hiding it. Are there any signs and things that I should look out for and be aware of that I am not thinking of? How are people finding out their partner’s are cheating?
Best answer:
Answer by XoXoRecklessXoXo
go in to his emails and facebook or myspace, make him swear that works , atleast with me
What do you think? Answer below!.
look into his eyes and ask, if his pupils react, shrink, he is lying, if they do not react he is telling the truth.
follow him.
Catch them in the act, read facebook/text messages. Question weird cancellations and such
put some under wear that are to small or to big to be yours then pull them out and ask him about it!! lol i saw it on a movie! 🙂
but seriously if he is you would have most likely been able to find out do you think its possible hes not cheating and its al in your head?
Well, I know this sounds kinda strange but Spy! You can jack his telephone line and listen, hide video cameras in his house, etc. Oh and follow his car. I followed my ex girlfriend around being stealthy and found out she was cheating on me. It should work.
Why do you think he’s cheating if there are no signs? Because “all men cheat?” Don’t do that to yourself. If he isn’t giving you a reason to think he’s actually cheating, don’t drive yourself nuts thinking he must be doing it and you just can’t find the evidence.
check his phone for texts, facebook is hes talking to anyone, make him swear his whole heart to be truthful to you, maybe talk to his friends if he talks about other girls or if hes doing anything.
If you REALLY think he’s cheating, I would make up a situation and pretend like you know/found out he has been cheating on you and you’re superr mad and will leave him. and if he has he will confess to it, hopefully!
Here are signs that he is cheating:
1. spends less time with you(an excuse to meet the “other woman”)
2. Isn’t as affectionate anymore(relationship isn’t as it use to be)
3. He changes his physical appearance(usually does it to try to impress the “other woman”)
4. Changes in the car(passenger seat moved, unknown hair in the car, radio station is on ones you guys usually don’t listen could be ones “she” likes)
5. He becomes short-tempered(feels guilty about what he did and little things start to bother him)
6. Smells differently( he may smell unusual like maybe he has the perfume of the other woman, smoke or alcohol because he hasn’t had time to change when he saw her)
7. Behavorial Changes (gets on the offensive when asked where he has been)
8. Cell phone changes(he can’t leave his telephone turned on when with you because his other woman may phone him. He may leave the room to have a telephone conversation or say strange things after he picks up a message from his lover. Watch for calls in the middle of the night. If you have access to his telephone bill, check it closely. Look for repeated unknown numbers, times and durations.)
9. 9. Computer usage changes.( A cheating man may utilize a computer to seek out partners or communicate with. If your man is on his computer for long periods of time at night and he closes the door so you won’t see him, he may be communicating or chatting with his love interest.)
10. Changes in spending habits. (You can tell if your man is cheating if he is suddenly always broke. He’s broke because he is spending all of his money on the other woman. Watch as to whether he is paying with cash and making more frequent ATM withdrawals to cover his paper trail. Check any receipts, bill’s or stubs that you may have access to. Once you know if your man is cheating or not, make sure you have a plan of action that you will take after you accuse him. You need to decide whether it’s time for you to move on or whether this relationship may be worth a second chance.)
There are a couple of clues:
1) Past relationship history: Did you meet him when he was still going out with some other girl or were you two single when you got together? Has he ever cheated on you in the past? Has he cheated on previous GF’s? If so then he has a history of that pattern of behavior and is certainly capable of cheating.
2) Behavioral Changes: Has there been an increase or decrease in the amount of sex or quality of sex in your relationship? Has his behavior changed?–is he more affectionate or more aloof with you physically or emotionally? Does he seem more secretive? Certain men behave differently when they cheat, some feel more passionate and tend to fawn on their primary partners out of guilt or excitement of their secret and feel they must overcompensate for it with physical displays of affection. If however he is more aloof then perhaps he’s found someone else and thus has less interest or energy to devote to your relationship. If he’s being secretive, then he’s probably hiding something he doesn’t want you to know about (Cheating, drugs, a world of warcrack addiction)
3) Unexplained Absences: If he spends time away from you with little or no contact then he might be with a lover. If you question him about those absences and he won’t look at you when he talks, then the story he spins is likely untrue.
What to do about it: if you suspect that he’s cheating check his phone while he’s asleep or in the shower. If you know his PW, check his voicemail, txts and call log, copy down the numbers and look them up online. If he’s smart he’ll be harder to catch, but most people aren’t smart about covering their tracks when they cheat. Txt msgs and vm he’s failed to delete will give him away, but if he’s smart, he’ll delete them and you’ll have to check his call log and see which numbers he calls/receives calls from the most. Likely he’ll screw up somewhere, an easy one is forgetting to log out of IM chat. If you long on as him and he’s getting IM’d by someone you suspect he’s more than friends with, play into it without offering up any details, see how far it goes. You can always save the conversation and confront him with it later.