Don’t know how to tell if your husband is cheating? Actually, you just need to pay a little more attention and you should be able to detect subtle signs of cheating, even if your husband is being careful.
The first thing to note is that cheaters will lie. Lies are part of the deal because a cheater inevitably will have to tell you what he has been up to and where he has gone. Innocent queries from a caring spouse like ‘why are you late’ and ‘why I can’t seem to reach you’ have to be answered. Therefore, if you suspect that your husband is cheating, then you would have to pay attention to his responses. Keep a close eye on his body language. When a person is telling a lie, he will fidget, avoid eye contact and become evasive if he has something to hide. So, try to learn more about body language and use it to your advantage to detect lying.
The second tip is watch his moods. A person who is having an affair can feel much pressure because he has to juggle the needs of two women. On top of that, the guilt can be overwhelming. So, if you know your spouse well, you can tell if something is wrong. His thoughts may be elsewhere, concentration may be poor, or he may get angry easily for no apparent reason. By the way, getting angry with you is one way to have a valid excuse to get out of the house to be with someone else without your knowledge.
The third way to tell if your husband is cheating is a sudden secretive behavior. He may not be so willing to let you share his computer or cell phone. These items are now secured with passwords. When his phone rings, he does not pick it up in front of you or he moves elsewhere to talk to prevent you from listening in.
The fourth tip is to observe any change in routine. To have an affair, your husband will have to make time to see the other woman. Therefore, he may have to leave for work earlier or come home later and use that period to carry out the affair. Alternatively, he may sleep later so that he can chat with his lover when you and the kids have gone to bed. Whatever method he uses to have an affair, a part of his daily routine may have to be changed to accommodate that new person in his life.
Lastly, be alert if your husband is creating a barrier between the both of you. This can mean being more withdrawn whereby he doesn’t feel a need to communicate anymore or the sex is now practically non-existent. When a spouse is getting his emotional and physical needs fulfilled by another, it is only natural that things will change at the home front. Creating a barrier is one way to put a distance between you and him to make place for someone else in his heart.
Of course, the above is not the only way to tell if your husband is cheating. Different people will exhibit different signs of cheating and a few may even be able to get away without their wives ever knowing. It is up to you to pay attention to what is happening to your spouse and your marriage to detect any problems that arise..