Infidelity is one of the number one reasons given for relationship failure. Infidelity has become a marketable issue. For example, cheater-hopefuls can visit and join www.philanderers.com which advertises private affairs and rediscovering passion (but not with your spouse). Once a couple has experienced infidelity, it can be possible to salvage the relationship if both parties work hard to openly communicate, work through their feelings, and seek help. Of course, trust is broken the moment one party steps out of the union. Trust is extremely difficult to re-build once it is broken.
People make many excuses for their infidelity. There is simply no excuse for infidelity. There may be warning signs before an affair actually ensues. These signs may include one party in the relationship complaining that they dont get enough or any sex. If this is the case, they will eventually stray if the issue is not resolved, as sex is a natural and healthy desire. Open and honest communication coupled with a desire to make the relationship work will usually work to ameliorate issues before they transpire into an affair. However, there are a few people out there whose sexual desire simply will not be satiated through one partner. If this is the case, you would do better to leave the relationship and find someone with similar values. If you choose to remain with such an individual, please understand that you will suffer many episodes of heartache and misery.
If you realize your partner is still seeing or contacting their former lover after the affair was discovered and they promised to end it, it is unlikely you will convince them to do otherwise. Dont waste your time chasing and pleading with someone who cant or doesnt love and respect you back! You deserve to be loved and cherished wholly.
Holly Smith, Ph.D., ABD, has been a credentialed school psychologist for the past 10 years, has experience working as a social worker dealing with families and children, and has taught graduate-level courses in psychology.
Although writing this book, in-part, comes directly from her personal experience during divorce, her vast professional experience lends to the required technical and theoretical expertise. In her former role as a social worker, she was tasked with providing education and training to families during difficult times in their lives. She provided education and support in the areas of coping with crisis situations, making healthy decisions and choices, effectively parenting and co-parenting, overcoming homelessness, and impro