Question by lurio031991: should i eventually give him a second chance?
less than a month ago i caught my husband with another women. I moved all my stuff out of the house the next dat and moved in with my parents. he has poured his heart out to me asking for forgiveness. I have filed for child support and i am thinking about filing for divorce. i really want him to understand that he is nothing without me. i want him to have some consequence for his infidelty. if i go back now it would be like saying everything is okay. He is having a hard time. He is about to get evicted from the house we shared. He has no cable. His car tags are expired. He got $ 100 speeding ticket. The car key broke off in the ignition and he had to pay the locksmith $ 85 dollars to fix it. and he has lost weight. I am going to see a therapist to help me cope with situation
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Answer by Liz
No! If you go back he will think that any time he wants to try someone new out he can and know that you will take him back eventually and he will become more sneaky about it….Think about it….could you really go through your day to day without wondering if he’s cheating again or not? Would you not worry that if he’s 5 min. late was it really traffic or a quick stop by Jane Doe’s house.
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girl you should run fast .believe me as far as he has spirled out of control if you go back he will take you with him .besides once a cheater always a cheater!!!!!!!
yea, some thing deserve a second chance, i don’t think this would be one of those things, but then again, this is my own oppinion, he obviously thought little of you when he cheated but for some reason you are thinking more of him and his problems
I think that men seem to appreciate what they can’t have, or what they once had and lost. I am proud of you for letting him know and following through with all you have as you have made it clear that this behavior is not acceptable and shown that you respect yourself enough to not put up with it. He is probably suffering greatly from his error. If he goes to counseling and deals with why he chose to disrespect himself, you and the family unit, I might consider a giving him a second chance, but that is also contingent on what you discover in your own therapy.
I don’t believe cheating is a mistake as its often claimed. A mistake is unintentional. Putting yourself in a situation with another person when you are married, is intentional and I would want to understand why.