Question by darlindee_2000: What are the signs of a cheating husband? Can he be cheating at work? ?
Can he be having an emotional affair? His attention to me has dropped tremendously…he has said jokingly that he is going to trade me in..? We argue alot about stupid stuff…he comes home with scratches on his neck and gets mad when I ask what happened..What should I think?
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Answer by floridaman39us
He could be chatting to women on his computer at work. there are alot of lonely housewives who chat during the day.
What do you think? Answer below!.
show up at his work one day without him knowing
Some signs…
His regular schedule has changed.
His grooming habits have changed.
He may be more aware of taking care of his body/working out.
Check his cell phone call logs.
Check credit card bills for unexplained charges.
Does he all of the sudden bring you flowers or gifts, when he didn’t before?
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wow scratches i think you need to do some serious digging well signs of cheating paying less attention and time to you fighting about stupid things less sex and yes he can cheat at work with someone take their lunch together etc check the credit debit card statements and the phone bill
1. Boredom with the Family
If your husband exhibits boredom with things pertaining to your family, it could be a sign that he could be seeing someone else or is in a greater risk of doing so.
2. Decreased Intimacy
If in the past you used to share everything with your husband and then suddenly he seems distanced and clams up when you try to discuss intimate things, it could mean that he has already distanced himself emotionally and mentally from you. Ask whether this is the case and dig for the cause of this estrangement.
Some husbands suddenly lose interest in doing anything with their wives – another testament to an increased estrangement.
3. He Gets Testy at the Mention of Infidelity
Men easily lose their tops whenever they are frustrated about something they seriously want – or want hidden. If you suddenly hint about infidelity, and he is trying his darndest to keep you off the know, then he is sure to blow his top at the mere mention of cheating.
This is one sign that he may be actually hiding something from you – or is trying really hard not to cheat. You will have to look hard into this.
4. He Stays Later At Work
Yes, overtime is a workplace reality. However, if he is spending more time than usual at work and sometimes beyond the usual overtime period, you may have sufficient cause for alarm.
This is doubly true if his credit statement suddenly has entries that are hard to explain or are plain dubious. You should look into these if you feel that there is something he should explain.
Conclusion
When you find these signs strung together, then you might have a husband that is cheating on you. If so, do not jump up and barge in to him with an accusation, seek advice on the proper means to resolving this issue.
You already know what to think.
Start by improving your self and your self confidance.
Fix the things you know make him crazy. If he has been telling you for twelve years that he hates your lipstick on the bathroom counter..move it. Start exercising. Act like you don’t think or know anything is wrong…treat him like the loving wife you used to be before he checked out.
Then learn the TRUTH! Quietly.. maybe you are wrong… I hope you are.. If not then get all the facts BEFORE you confront him so he can’t make you think that you are crazy or convince you that you are overreacting.
No one can answer this for you.
You need marriage counselling to work on communication. That will stop all the arguing and will get down to the truth of the underlying problem.
The answer is both yes and no. He could be cheating, so yes. He might not be cheating, so the answer is no. He has a lunch break, so he probably has time during work hours. Scratches on the next sound odd.
Emotional affairs happen often when people aren’t getting along in a marriage. They are almost worse than someone he would just have sex with and doesnt’ care about. One is meaningless, and other other hans meaning. Not a fun situation.
But he just might have pulled away from you and not gotten emotionally attached to anyone else.
Sit him down, have a frank talk to him. Say you realize you have both been arguing too much lately and would like a marriage counsellor or a spiritual leader help guide you onto a better path. Explain carefully to him it’s not so he is wrong and you are right. It’s for both to see their faults in this and both to see your strengths in this. Both to have someone who isn’t emotionally involved to help you both out. Explain counsellors never take sides, they really don’t. Tell him you’d like to get to work on this wth a counsellor to move forward into a better relationship with him.
Most men are terrified of counsellors, they think they are goign to be ganged up on and told they are wrong. Once you can explain that never happens, they are generally more open to it. They really wont’ take sides either… but help you find the real problems and give you tools to help you get through it.
Marriage always have harder times. That’s why vows say in good times and in bad. They are trying to tell you up front that bad times happen.
As for having an affair or not. Who knows. Your trust in him is floundering and that can be a problem. Your trust stems from him not giving you the same kind of attention he used too. I’ve met couples with whom one cheated and they did tons of work together and made a better marriage than ever afterwards. It’s not an end of anything if you dont’ want it to be. But don’t jump to the conclusion either.
Go to counselling and see what happens.
good luck.
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What are the signs of an untrusting wife?
If your husband is cheating, or is going to cheat, he will do it and being his personal police-woman and questioning him about a scratch on his neck is NOT going to make him reconsider and jump in bed with you instead.
If the two of you are arguing a lot, stop and figure out why. If it’s stupid stuff, then why are you still arguing with him about it? Why not just be gracious and be the bigger person and let it go? Why not just say, “yanno Honey, I think you’re right” and let him “win” one now and then.
All men secretly want to be worshipped, adored, admired, and respected by the woman they have chosen to love. Most men won’t admit that, however.
And sadly, most wives don’t understand that the very things they do to try and make their man better (i.e. nagging him all the time, trying to get him to lose weight, get a promotion at work, make more money, finish school, etc.) really just announce to their husband, loud and clear, that he isn’t good enough.
So, long story short, all it takes to seduce a married man is to give him what he desperately wants, but what his wife doesn’t/won’t give him.
If you’re bitching at him, nagging, arguing, etc. and just seem generally unhappy at home, he’s going to feel like he’s a failure as a man.
If the new secretary at work praises him, tells him he’s smart, handsome, whatever, then she’s building him up while you’re tearing him down.
Doesn’t take much brains to figure that one out, right?
So, if you think your husband’s cheating on you, the thing NOT to do is to accuse him, follow him, snoop, spy, question him, be angry, with-hold affection, etc.
The thing to do is to go back and do what you did when you were dating him, which is to adore him, to make him feel like he’s the king of the world.
Now, I say all of that assuming your husband is a good, honorable, decent man.
If you’re married to a bad man, and you certainly know if you are or not, then it shouldn’t matter if he’s cheating or not, you already know you shouldn’t be with him.
Here is a very good book for you to read, “The Truth About Cheating”, by M Gary Neuman.
It is very possible. But it is hard to say I would keep asking him about the scratches. I know everyone hates to fight, but if you get him mad he may confess. Showing up at his work might not work because if you show up and see nothing he will get mad at you for showing up saying you don’t trust him. And then he will feel even more free to do as he pleases and use the lack of trust as one of his excuses.
According to the Doc on Oprah yesterday..You have the right to ask your husband if he is cheating..ask him to take a lie detector test..check his phone..place a gps on his car if legal in your state.
There could be no signs at all – and the signs you’re seeing could be related to something else entirely (stress, you becoming suspicious, etc); there’s no way to know for sure. There could be anything – he could be involved with someone else, but it’s not necessarily the case. Do you trust your gut feeling, have you been right before? Sudden changes in attention, routine, habits can be indicative of something going on – unfortunately, there usually isn’t any way to find out for sure; obviously, if you ask him, he’s not going to just tell you. Sometimes the best thing to do is just sit tight and wait for the storm to blow over.
throw him out
if you have a gut feeling its right.
Does he wear a ring? if he does she knows he’s married when she’s putting those scratches hickeys etc. on his neck he’s allowing it to happen that also means that 1 you are being very disrespected by your husband that doesn’t care if his wife he’s about to trade after he gets through test driving the other woman 2he can’t even tell you where they came from3 and y’all arguing about simple stuff right women have a super power that we sometimes ignore and you already know what it is you didn’t have to ask nobody you all ready knew you have evidence that’s how they convict people .
he already told you. he is shopping & going 2 trade you in or test driving. no worries, most men do not leave, easier to rent a sports car & own a mini van.