Is it possible to regain trust after infidelity? “Of course”, most experts say. Many couples not only overcome this ordeal, but also become stronger as a unit than before. A lot of couples have become cohesive after infidelity because their relationship has become more sincere than before, and really elevated to a new level. But the only way to achieve it is to forgive infidelity with all your heart! And this is very difficult.
Regaining lost trust is a long, painful and slow process, but the success is very possible. It’s like rolling a heavy stone up to the mountain. One wrong move – and the stone rolls back, and you have to start all over again.
How do you need to start ?
Accept the fact of infidelity.
Many people prefer to ignore the warning signs and do not follow their intuition. These people “bury their heads in the sand”. They think that if they ignore the problem it is going to be easier to fix the relationship. But in fact, an unsolved problem is only getting worse and there may come a time when it would be impossible to maintain the relationship.
Stop blaming.
As much as it is difficult not to blame your partner for the situation you are both in, please, try to stay away from constant reminders. Instead, both partners need to work together to find the causes of infidelity. They need to understand why it happened and how to prevent this from happening in the future.
Be attentive to each other
Try to change things that your partner finds dissatisfying. Find ways to show to your partner that he is loved and appreciated. And not necessarily do so only with words. Small gifts, calls from work, a little more attention after the working day and at weekends go long way.
Bring back the romance in your relationship
Remember what attracted you to each other when you first met. Spend more time together, such as playing sports or going to the movies. Share your hopes and dreams for your future life together.
Try to bring something new into your relationship and fill an emotional void. May be the visit to a family counselor would be necessary. Admitting that you have a problem is the first step of solving it. And honesty is the main condition for both of you to regain trust.