Tips to avoid infidelity.
Adultery is always considered as family failure that everybody reacts differently. Here is a short list of afterthoughts:
– “He is just a dog. It would have happened no matter what I had done!”
– “I have only myself to blame! What do I do now? ”
– “It is my entire fault. I should have never married this person! ”
– “I knew that she was all over guys before me and I still went for it”
As you can see, opinions and reactions are different;therefore, each person will look for one unique way to overcomeinfidelity that would be suitable for him/her. We are going to name some tips that can be use as either a “vaccination” to prevent cheating or “medicine” to cure the aftereffects of this “illness”
Tip One: Do not just suspect your partner without any reason.
Some people are absolutely sure that their partners would cheat if given a chance. That is their belief regardless of anything. That belief grows stronger if they see people they know (co-workers, relatives) getting involved in extra-marital relationship. As a result, these people always give wrong interpretations to anything their partner say or do and this becomes a feeding ground for various conflicts. And, unfortunately, conflicts in the relationship are one of the biggest causes of infidelity.
Tip Two: Do dedicate all your time trying to catch your partner in the act.
Some people set their ultimate goal as to catch your partner cheating at any means necessary!
Continuoussurveillance personally and withthe help of loyalfriends, checking phone messages and conversations, hiring private detectives andother tricksavailable. Sometimes, these people resort toprovocation, such as to avoid physical contact with their partner just to see if that would lead to something on a side.
In somecountries there areprivate agenciesthat verifythe ability ofmen to resist temptations. Wifehires asexual”controller”, whichactsas an attractivewoman that looks for a little “romance”. Knowing all husbands’ favorite bars and restaurants, the “controller” sets up a “random” meeting withhimand startsto seduce him. Onceit comes close to sexual encounter, the “controller” contacts the wife.
There are two outcomes and both are problematic.
- The husband got finally caught! Now what would be the course of action? Most likely it would be a divorce and break of the family. Are you ready for it? Do you have a plan? What about kids? This might not have happened if it was not orchestrated and that would leave the question “Would have it happened if I did not set it up?” unanswered forever
- The husband resisted, but later found out that it was set up by his wife. While it might not lead to a drastic measures like divorce, but it would surely make a big dent in the relationship
Tip Three: Give your partner benefit of the doubt in any suspicious situation.
If you noticed a crumpled bed, and he said that he was tired and took a nap after work – then so it was.Returned late from work and said that the meeting was delayed – then believe him.This is a win-win situation. Trust goes a long way
Tip Four: Give yourself a long look in the mirror.
Try to analyze your relationship with your partner and your part in it. Give your best shot to change your life for the better. You might object saying that everything is just fine and you do your best. This is a mistake. If you think that everything is fine, it only means that it is fine with YOU. What about your partner? Does he feel the same way? Pay more attention to your partner, do not concentrate just on yourself There is always a way to improve everyday relationship..