Question by : What factors would make infidelity more understandable to a man?
If a married man discovered that his wife had been unfaithful, what factors in the situation would make her actions more understandable? What conditions or events would make it more likely that he would forgive her for her betrayal?
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Answer by Optimist
None.
What do you think? Answer below!.
the fact that he has other women he is screwing
Bipolar disorder. Mentally unstable, a sex addict. Or just a SLUT. Sounds like someone has a guilty concious and wants to make excuses, i’m not gonna judge but i know when you make your bed you fucking lie in it. Take whatever you/she/ or this hyperthetical person has coming to them and tell the truth.
Men are fine with cheating themselves, but intolerant of women cheating.
A workaholic that doesn’t make time for his wife.
there r no such factors. we all love cheating but hate being cheated on. thats human nature. as long as its ‘me’ who cheats, its ok, its normal.. its alright…. as soon as our spouse or someone we love cheats, (or our parents cheat on each other) it becomes a big deal. hypocrites
For me there would be a number of things to consider. I think one would be whether it was a mistake like a one night stand after having been drinking and socializing, or something more serious involving regular meetings. If it was a one time thing, then I would want to know that she was safe and was protected, and at least was with a man she knew and not a random jerk who could hurt her. I would want her to come home okay and ready to talk. Another issue would be whether or not it meant she was unhappy with me or instead was just a harmless error. A big one would be how much I had to do with the whole thing. If I had neglected or mistreated her then of course I would have a large part of the responsibility for what happened. One major one would be whether she was honest. If she came forward and told me then that would go a long way toward fixing things, whereas if she kept it all hidden I would be very upset and of course I would also have been prevented from trying to make things right. Ideally of course none of this will ever matter because we have stayed strong as husband and wife and never betray each other this way.
If he was cheating also or if he knows he has mistreated you for a long time, he may be will to work it out.
The factors, should they exist, would be based on the relationship that you have with your husband. Don’t go down the excuses path – that will end badly. Don’t try to make it his fault. Short of him instructing you to cheat – it’s not his fault, it’s yours and yours alone. The act itself is your burden to bear – he has to bear only the aftermath.
You can try to explain yourself – and you should – but just be honest. Whatever took you to that point is a result of choices that you made. Be honest about them – accept them – change what you can and move on.
He will forgive you or he won’t. If you try to turn it around – and are successful doing it – what would you really have gained. You wouldn’t be fixing anything, just assigning blame. You have to get past assigning blame or keeping score on petty slights and get to the real issues at hand. It’s the only way you can really move forward.
Good Luck.
bad either way, but I suppose if he did it first, he couldn’t be upset as much?