Below are 10 signs of a cheating spouse. You may see one or several of these signs or you may not even notice any. Signs of cheating are not set in stone and different people will see different signs emerging based on their own unique situation. So, the 10 signs below are just a guide to get you to look into your own situation in a more detailed manner.
1. Change in routine. This is to accommodate a new person in your spouse’s life. Because he needs to meet up with the other person, a change in routine may be necessary to fit into each other’s schedule.
2. Change in interest. When a new person enters your life, it is natural to be influenced by her likes and dislikes. That is why someone who is having an affair may display a sudden interest in a new hobby or activity.
3. Change in sex drive. If a person is having his sexual needs fulfilled by a third party, he may be less interested to have intercourse with his own spouse. Or, you may see he is keen to experiment with different positions having learned that elsewhere from another. From all the signs of a cheating spouse, this is the most intimate that only you would know when there something is not right somewhere in your marriage.
4. Being evasive. A cheater will become evasive to certain questions as he needs to say as little as possible to avoid raising your suspicions. So, there may a tendency to brush off your queries and change the topic of conversation to deflect attention from himself.
5. Being secretive. Passwords may suddenly be needed when you want to log onto his computer or he may be reluctant to let you use his cell phone. Alternatively, you may notice call logs and websites history deleted so that records will turn out empty when you try to look for them.
6. Overwhelming guilt. This is hard to spot but guilt can take its toll on a cheating spouse. It is hard to maintain a facade of a faithful wife or husband, especially when one is involved in a long-term affair. Usually, cheaters will try to make themselves feel better and they do so by buying gifts for their spouses or being extra warm and loving at home. In short, it is a change in behavior in an effort to get rid of the guilty feeling.
7. Breakdown in communication. A cheater may not want to share his feelings and daily happenings with you anymore because someone else is fulfilling his emotional needs. So, this will result in a breakdown in communication whereby your spouse is no longer confiding and communicating with you about his feelings or even basic stuff like his day at work.
8. Unexplained time away from home. When the time away from home is getting longer and longer with no good reason, it is also one of the signs of a cheating spouse. Alarm bells should ring when your spouse says he will be out jogging or grocery shopping but comes home half a day later.
9. A whiff of perfume. A cheater may be careful enough not to have lipstick stains on his shirt but and it will be hard to avoid perfume or cologne scent from sticking to the clothes when both have been intimate. So, if you catch a whiff of perfume when your spouse comes home, pay attention. Similarly, if he comes home smelling freshly showered and he has not been to the gym, you will also need to wonder what is happening.
10. Your gut feeling. If your instinct tells you that something odd is happening, you are probably right. The fact that you are searching for signs of a cheating spouse already means you are suspicious. Sometimes, no proof may be needed at all when you know you can rely on your strong instincts..