Question by Catman: Is my partner cheating on me fair grounds to cheat on her?
My partner of two years cheated on me yesterday, admitted it fully, was truthful (after i found out accidentlally), and said she did it because the intimacy had gone in the relationship (mainly cause i had been working long hours at my job over the past few weeks). She now says that i am free to cheat on her if we stay together. Should I? Can that work or only lead to trouble? I do want to give her a taste of her own medicine, but i still love her. Help!
Best answer:
Answer by RAVEN
no
because then you have two major problems
at the moment you have one
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It is only going to lead you 2 into more problems in your relationship. If you love her, forgive her and try to forget. If you can’t forgive, then leave and find the person that deserves you.
Dont cheat on her. Its just sending the message that u r as low as that – to her previous acts.
Ask her honestly what she wants with this relationship and whether it should continue.
I know many say, dont get back together – a cheather is always a cheater – yet it could of been a once off. If she is REALLY upset about her actions, i do believe u should forgive her. One time, a mistake.
Though i would suggest not cheating on her – it just sends the wrong message
Hi Catman, revenge is sweet so they say, but two wrongs don’t make a right. how sweet of her to let you sleep with someone else. To be honest if you hadn’t found out she would never of told you. So the field is clear, when you find someone to cheat with why don’t you ask her to come over and watch. I don,t even think she cares. whatever.
Still,
if the intimacy had ‘gone,disappeared,faded in the relationship’
then why didn’t she just leave you?
Instead she had to cheat on you?
which I find incredibly cruel.
and incredibly hard to believe someone of a two year relationship would do that
Though she may be sorry,
but only because you found out first,
if you didn’t, would she have told you anyway?
Would she really be as truthful as you think she is?
She says you can cheat on her, just so she knows she’s out of the dog box.
If you cheat, you’re as bad as her and she’ll start calling you a hypocrit.
Plus, you love the girl, so there is no point in cheating!
Revenge is sweet, I know.
But the guilt upon revenge is sour.
“Forgive and forget”
But remember, its easy to forgive,
but you’ll never forget..
Why would you stay in a relationship with a woman, who would sleep with another man?
Thats the real question..
No, you should not. why would you want cheat her the way she cheated you? It has no meaning like that. I don’t think it will work that way. She said that so the situation will be ‘fair’ for the both of you. If you both still love each other, work things out (not just you have to make it work). There will be a way. Talk to each other. Listen. Forgive. Maybe it’s hard,but, if you both still want this relationship, work hard to be together. But if one of you don’t want this anymore, it’s better to let it go. It has no use to force things. Just think properly before making any decision. All the best to both of you.