Question by lookin4ansrs: Why does the world consider infidelity a reason to divorce, but everything else should be worked through?
issues behind infidelity are always there, so why no deal those too? i get the sense that world accepts no reason for divorce other than this…and abuse.
so how do you work through infidelity, if you decide to stay? can it be worked through? what if it happened multiple times, on both sides?
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Answer by dude
False premise. there are no issues that ‘the world” considers in any direction. Every culture is different andpeople within each culture are different.
As for working through infidelity, sure it CAN be worked through…. the odds of it being successful after multiple infractions? pretty damn slim.
Maybe they should consider open marriage
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The notion behind infidelity that doesn’t give the chance for re-conciliation is that mostly its done when that someone who commits it runs out of love. Even if it happens by accident, the victimized spouse will always live with the fact that his/her spouse have chosen the body and comfort of other person, this creates a huge gap that makes it difficult to reconcile. It will be like living in doubts of “it may happen again”. But if the marriage is founded on solid romantic background not on material benefits or arrangement, there is always the chance of talking out of the problem, leave everything and the consequences behind and move on but it needs patience, forgiveness, willingness not to break up a family and alter the stable mind of the children if involved and better understanding of life, I wish for all those in this ordeal to have the love of Christ to mend the affair of the blessed marriage forever. God Bless
because people are very selfish and don’t want to share
I think once you been with other people, especially multiple times you lose the trust that allows the unspoken, beautiful things of a relationship. Being on different trains of thought, and possibly thinking about someone else really erodes the desire to be there for each other. When you drift, it’s easy to keep moving.
well define “everything else”
everything else is probably like forgetting something or making a mistake or telling a little lie or something… those are small things they’re not that important
infidelity hurts people
who would want to stay with someone that is involved with someone else? i guess most people want to be loved by one person and they dont want that person to be loving someone else..
plus infidelity makes people suspicious, you’ve lost their trust and for most people i think it would be hard to gain that trust back… if a man cheats on his wife, the wife probably thinks he’ll do it again so whats the point? the trust is lost, which means most friendliness is lost
if it happened multiple times on both sides than why would the couple be together? obviously they are not satisfied with each other…
yes of course anything can be worked through
infidelity is harder because both parties would have to be like push overs or completely apathetic..
thats just my opinion
I don’t know that the world in general agrees on anything in regard to marriage. Many people are unwilling to work through infidelity but stay married after they’ve been physically abused and I don’t understand that at all. Personally, if I had to choose a way in which my spouse was going to betray me, I’d rather he sleep around instead of hitting me.
If infidelity is occurring on both sides, it seems to me they have two options: either split up, or decide to have an open marriage.